Again I bring you a passage from the ‘Autism Revolution’ and the wonderful book by Martha Herbert (2013). This chapter focuses on being in the present and loving the autistic nature of your child. Chapter 9 if you would like to read it in more depth.
What are the biggest problems? We don’t have enough information! What should we spend our time and money on? Is the key issue the disturbed immune system, the digestive issues, mitochondrial problems, sensory concerns and injuries, genetic mutations and environmental exposures? Some treatments you try at some times in your life fail – but they may be blockages, and at some later time this treatment will work? It is perhaps impossible to solve all the child’s problems at once – and your commitment to autism is your commitment to your child?
Herbert thinks so. She adds; an autism diagnosis has a huge impact on everyone and is not something you can prepare for. Your future hopes may be shattered? Schools and medics are not prepared for us and the general public only sees the surface behaviours and is therefore quick to make judgements upon our parenting.
Many people are upset that there may be links to toxic substances that we have no control over in our environment and we have been led to believe our governments are there to protect us from dangerous products and that many chemicals are not well tested. Martha adds that you can be angry about your situation and be a ‘total bulldog’ in getting what you need for your child but still show compassion for those who work in the healthcare and school systems. Just as you look for teaching moments with your child – look for these with the professionals you encounter and help them to understand. Watch out for that anger and pain that keeps you from really being present and loving with your child. The diagnosis is what it is. You have the power to transform its meaning as well as its outcome. Huge numbers of parents are learning and finding innovative ways to love and make a difference for their child.
People with autism are getting better and parents are learning and working on many parts of the puzzle at a time; not everyone will achieve success, some will achieve modest success and others perhaps only a little? Next month I will highlight these changes in terms of digestion, stimulating the immune system and improving behaviours. If you can’t wait read Herbert’s book for yourself!